Tim Ervin, LCPC, BCC, CH

Relationship Resources

Dr. Gottman’s Sound Relationship House features seven levels emphasizing the need for couples to build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning.

Brené Brown: Listening to shame: 

Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behavior. Brené Brown, whose earlier talk on vulnerability became a viral hit, explores what can happen when people confront their shame head-on. Her own humor, humanity and vulnerability shine through every word.

Brené Brown studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame.

Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse | The Gottman Institute (Video)

Certain negative communication styles are so lethal to a relationship that Dr. John Gottman calls them the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. They predict relationship failure with over 90% accuracy if the behavior isn't changed. So, what can you do?

One of the most significant theories created by The Gottman Institute is the Sound Relationship House. In John Gottman’s book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, those seven principles are connected to each level, or floor, of the Sound Relationship House. Those levels are:

  1. Build Love Maps
  2. Share Fondness and Admiration
  3. Turn Towards Instead of Away
  4. The Positive Perspective
  5. Manage Conflict
  6. Make Life Dreams Come True
  7. Create Shared Meaning

ONLINE RELATIONSHIP CHECK-UP. Take an online assessment at any time and in the setting of your choice. The assessment will have questions about friendship, intimacy, knowledge of your partner, style of managing emotions, how values and goals are shared, and what gives meaning to your lives.

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